I have an older friend of mine and I where chatting and she told me of her husband’s group who got together to discuss life and problems (a male version of a book club perhaps) or current events. She felt no insecurities about her husband’s group and their meeting. She was very wise in knowing that men do need to form connections. Connections that last. Mental health professionals write that people need to connect. Keeping in contact with friends are as vital as keeping contact with family the older you get.

Once I was in a museum and observed a group of older/elderly men who were viewing a popular exhibit. There was no wife or significant other in attendance. I was intrigued and followed.

It was obvious that these men had bonded and it showed. Some asked questions to each about the meaning of a piece of art and some would answer the questioner with respect. Everyone has questions about contemporary. Art. Some of the men looked after those who were not that steady on their feet.

I think there is something to what you written, Men missing out on closeness with a father. I have male friends who were close to their fathers and in turn are very close to their sons. Thank you for the article.